7/5/2007
Vol. 4, No. 11
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Professional
Practice |
Responses
to family presence
during codes
Responses
to Family
at Codes:
A Beneficial
Practice
Our hospital policy for code blues does not dictate a particular preference
on whether the family should stay or leave the area. However, it has often
been the practice to escort the family away from the immediate area. The
primary reason has been to provide room for the code responders so that
they can be unimpeded in their work.
I
have attended
many codes over
the years and
I have seen the
pros and cons
of both scenarios.
I agree with
Brent Peery that
it may be beneficial
for "select" family
members to be
present during
a code. The key
lies in knowing
which family
member will help
or hinder the
process.
My
experience has
been that not
all family members
can withstand
the emotional
stress and chaotic
ambience of a
code. Some have
become very emotional,
tearful, angry,
frustrated, and
bewildered by
the situation
to the point
of yelling negative
comments at the
responders over
the apparent
lack of success.
At times, they
have refused
to move away
from the bed
or only moved
a few feet after
being physically
forced to move.
The
chaplain's task
is to evaluate
as quickly as
possible which
family members
can deal with
observing the
code. That evaluation
will determine
if the chaplain
will advocate
for the continued
presence of the
family in the
room or choose
an alternative.
On many occasions,
it has been better
to remove the
family from the
very stressful
environment of
the code.
However,
I have also seen
the benefits
of family members
being present
during a code.
The sharp reality
of their loved
one’s
struggle to survive
has helped some
family members
to accept the
inevitable. Being
an eyewitness
to the trauma
and the tremendous
effort required
to try to keep
a loved one alive
can be very helpful
for some in accepting
a poor prognosis.
Sometimes the
family member
who was an eyewitness
to the code can
relate their
experience, their
feelings and
their thoughts
to other family
members who may
be struggling
with letting
go. Again, the
chaplain needs
to use good judgment
in deciding if
a family member
should stay in
the room.
Lastly,
cultural factors
and language
barriers must
be considered
in any decision
being made about
family presence.
A family's behavior
during life and
death scenarios
is often guided
not by rational
thinking but
by cultural norms
and expectations.
When one adds
the element of
language barriers
to the already
confusing and
chaotic rush
of staff and
the yelling of
orders by the
attending medical
staff, a very
volatile situation
can occur.
Therefore,
chaplains need
to hone their
skills and include
all aspects of
the family’s
dynamics when
considering who
they should or
should not advocate
for when a code
is called.
Grimaldo
H. Enriquez,
Chaplain Supervisor
Chaplain Services, Community Medical Centers
Fresno, CA
I
want to thank
Brent not only
for this well
written article,
but also for
its timeliness.
Here at our hospital
we are just beginning
to talk about
this situation
and my director
has asked me
to locate an
accessible and
well written
one page article
to give out to
the rest of the
staff in our
department, and
Brent's article
is perfect. It
is not uncommon
for us to have
family present
at codes in our
ER, but extremely
rare on the floors.
We had one recently,
however, because
I, as the chaplain,
assessed it would
be appropriate,
as well as helpful.
Some of the staff
were not sure
about it and
so I spent some
time debriefing
them and asking
them what worked
and what didn't.
It became clear
that we needed
some clear guidelines,
so we are beginning
to look at it
seriously.
Mark LaRocca-Pitts, PhD, BCC
Staff Chaplain
Athens Regional Medical Center
Athens, GA
Thank
you for this
article. I agree
that it is often
beneficial to
have families
present. I also
agree that the
chaplain should
be present with
a family during
these codes.
However, I would
add that the
chaplain and/or
a medical staff
person should
explain what
is happening
and ask if the
person wishes
to be present.
Preparation helps
the family members
in this type
of experience.
It also helps
when the decision
to stop is the
result.
Recently,
on two occasions
at the hospital
where I work,
the nurse educator
came out and
hurriedly rushed
in family members
with no preparation.
In both cases
it was detrimental.
In the second
case, the code
was already over
and the patient’s
face was covered
with a cloth.
The room was
in disarray and
the medical staff
was about to
leave. The daughters
were shocked
and collapsed
onto the floor.
The medical staff
felt that the
memory of this
would forever
affect them in
a negative way.
I feel that things
would have gone
well if I had
prepared them
for the ordeal
and gently supported
them. I was with
them in the waiting
room prior to
the incident.
However, the
chaplain is NOT
consulted in
these cases.
We do respond
to codes, but
are not considered
a part of the
team. This is
frustrating for
me as I have
worked where
the chaplain
is an essential
team member.
Anonymous
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Advocacy |
Chaplain Cliff Bond on what patients expect
from us
"Whatever
it is that you do…”
Our inpatient medical oncology
patient care meeting was concluding as we
gathered at the nurse’s station to
plan our day. Physicians were charting at
the same desk. One physician greeted me and
then gave me a synopsis of a patient’s
condition with both a diagnosis and prognosis
which were doubly difficult; she was not
only young but was also one of our colleagues.
The patient, “Vickie”(not her
real name), was a nurse in her 50’s
who had just been diagnosed with ovarian
cancer. The physician then said, “Cliff,
whatever it is that you do, go do it now
with Vickie.”His comment acknowledged
the value of pastoral care and he wanted
this for his patient. He also was admitting
that he was not suited to deliver this facet
of care that was very much needed.
Sometimes we apologize for what we have
to offer in the acute care setting. We do
not prescribe medications nor administer
treatments. In a medical setting where these
comprise the vast bulk of care rendered,
we can feel overlooked or under-utilized.
In our facility, our chaplaincy staff have
written entries into the physician progress
notes for many years, so we were always visible
as part of the care team as long as we actually
charted. Notes entered in the past had shared
information that was useful to the physicians
in their care plan, so it was a natural transition
for this physician to ask for assistance
when it was needed; it was needed now.
Vickie’s husband was sitting in a
chair beside her bed. Both were tense because
of the seriousness of her situation. They
had a deep faith. As we talked and prayed
the tension did not lessen—it changed.
The energy of worry became the energy of
courage and hope. Vickie grabbed my jacket
lapels, pulling me close to her face: “Promise
me I will be strong enough to go through
these tests.”She did not demand healing.
She wanted something more. She wanted what
I call “realistic hope.”Vickie
gripped my hand and would not let me go until
I answered. I said, “As God is my witness,
you will be strong enough.”She said, “I
will hold you to that!”
I was shaking inwardly at the audacity
of my proclamation to her. I went to my fellow
chaplains, wanting some kind of feedback.
They agreed that in this situation, with
this particular patient, it seemed to be
a good pastoral care approach.
Vickie went through the treatments which
were recommended, fought valiantly and maintained
her high level of courage and realistic hope.
She died far too soon.
Vickie taught me a most valuable lesson:
patients expect more from us than we can
deliver, and that is okay. Faith
is not knowing what to do; faith involves
a certain element of risk, taking a chance,
staking a claim, claiming a position, creating
hope and trust, all done within the context
of a covenant relationship. If we truly believe
we are called by God to care for those needing
spiritual support, we can trust God to give
us the words to say at that time and
for that situation. Trusting the moment,
trusting the relationship, trusting the Spirit
makes pastoral care spiritual—or spiritual
care pastoral. Chaplains are in a unique
role with unique training and when we can
trust that things truly do work together
for good when we are called by God, some
amazing and even startling things will happen.
This kind of interaction could not have
occurred early in my work as chaplain. I
had not yet learned to work outside of the “footnotes”of
my training and had not yet established the
high level of trust needed in relationships
with physicians. “Whatever it is you
do, go do it with that patient”is both
humorous and priceless.
Chaplain Cliff Bond has worked with clients
and families in the Kansas City and Topeka
area since 1982 as a chaplain and counselor.
Cliff graduated from Baker University in 1978
and completed his masters in Pastoral Care
and Counseling at Emory University, Atlanta
in 1981. He completed an intern year in Clinical
Pastoral Education in 1982 at Bethany Medical
Center, Kansas City, KS. During his 22 years
as staff chaplain at St. Francis Health Center
in Topeka he worked with cancer patients, persons
with addictions and their families, presented
workshops on numerous topics and has been part
of various in-services and grand rounds in
the community. Currently he is the Bereavement
Coordinator at Heart of America Hospice, Topeka,
KS. In his “real life”he lives
with his wife Carol, with whom he enjoys going
camping and being with their six grandchildren.
He also does some occasional drag racing with
his ‘89 Mustang.
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Education
& Research |
Rev. Susan Wintz on the language we use
Being
Mindful of Our Words
In a recent review of a book on grief published
in PlainViews, the reviewer referred
to grievers’experiences as having ‘lost’their
loved one. In the context of that particular
review, the author also states: “Those
who have endured the death of a spouse or
child can nurture the raw wound for quite
some time before allowing it to begin to
heal. We possess that pain and hold it close
and, sometimes it seems, only give it up
reluctantly. Then we begin our own journeys
toward renewed wholeness, albeit changed
forever.”[1]
What is essential for us to realize is that
those who grieve seldom attain 'renewed wholeness'
in the sense of returning to be the exact
same persons they were before the death occurred.
Just as important in our professional work
is acknowledging that they should not be
expected to.
We are all familiar with the concept of
loss. It is true that when a death occurs
there is a loss of a relationship that is
precious. Life is never again the same, and
those who remain are faced with the task
of relearning their world without their loved
one in it as well as all of the changes that
means on a daily and moment-by-moment basis.
When a person grieves, they mourn not only
the physical presence of the one who died,
they mourn for the future and what might
have been. The house is emptier; the bed
bigger, the voices surrounding one are diminished,
and future milestones that were looked toward
with anticipation are changed. Wholeness
cannot be ‘renewed’as one previously
knew it before the death, for there is always
a place in their heart that is broken. While
over time a heart may heal, a scar always
remains, and while life continues, it does
so in a completely different context for
those who have experienced the death of a
loved one. What lies ahead are countless
moments and situations where the wound of
grief can be opened again and again. As pastoral
care providers, we can never assume that
one’s grief has been completely healed
and that the griever is ‘whole’again.
A larger issue is the language we use when
we speak with or about those who grieve someone
who has died. A large portion of my professional
work has been within the context of providing
spiritual and pastoral care to bereaved parents
and educating other disciplines about parental
and sibling grief. Over and over again I
have heard from parents how the use of the
words “lost your child”causes
them additional emotional and spiritual pain.
Hearing this, many years ago I mindfully
changed my language to use the more appropriate “your
child died." Those are more suitable
words because they speak the reality and
acknowledge the enormous sense of sadness
and change that continually confronts parents
who contend with the challenges of life without
their child.
I am now three and a half years into my
own journey as a bereaved parent (can that
be true? It seems like only yesterday!) My
husband, son, and I all cringe when someone
refers to our daughter and sister as being ‘lost.’We
didn’t lose her. Sarah died as the
result of an accident caused by a reckless
adult driver. We know exactly where the accident
happened and the place where she died. She
wasn’t and isn’t lost. Our grief
has nothing in common with misplacing a set
of keys or a dog escaping from the back yard.
While we are grateful for the reminders of
our daughter and sister that continue to
surround us as well as the knowledge that
we will one day see her and hold her again
in our arms, they do not diminish the grief
we continue to feel or transform the missing
place in our family that will never be filled
in this lifetime.
As professionals, let us be mindful of the
words that we use and the impact they have
upon those we care for. While we may think
we are being sensitive in the use of words
like ‘lost’or ‘wholeness’with
the hope of softening the pain or reframing
the reality of death, the truth is that we
are not; in fact, we may be adding to it.
Let us use words that honor those in grief
that we are privileged to walk with and demonstrates
respect to those they continue to love.
Footnotes
[1] Rev. Suzanne Hope Graham, Walking
With Grief –A Healing Journey, PlainViews,
Vol. 4, No. 10.
Sue Wintz, M.Div., BCC is staff chaplain
at St. Joseph’s Hospital and Medical
Center in Phoenix, Arizona and a member of
the PlainViews Advisory Board. She serves as
President Elect of the Association of Professional
Chaplains. Sue is ordained and endorsed by
the Presbyterian Church (USA). She and her
husband Mike are proud parents of two children:
Matt, who is involved in communications and
cinema and Sarah, a donation hero who gave
the Gift of Life in 2003 following her death
at the age of 17.
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Spiritual
Development |
Rev. Mark LaRocca-Pitts, Ph.D., on an answer
to all our “whys”
God’s
Mysterious Mercy
In my work as a hospital chaplain,
it is a rare day when I do not hear from
someone the following: “one day we
will understand,”or “when we
get to heaven, then we will know.”There
have even been times when I have said, “God
will have a lot to answer for one day.”We
are daily confronted with a level of suffering
that confounds all our ability to rationalize:
a loved one, too young to die, is killed
tragically in an accident; in the prime of
life, you are diagnosed with a terrible and
terminal cancer; in the years that should
be “golden,”an implacable gray
depression descends; in a schoolroom deemed
safe, a crazed gunman enters. Yes, we like
to think, God will have MUCH to answer for!
And with that thought, I often envision
a scene that will occur on that day when
I first arrive in heaven: I march up to God
with the confidence of the redeemed and I
pull out my list of all the wrongs and all
the suffering that I witnessed and experienced
and I ask God to reveal to me that “bigger”picture
in which all these horrible things will somehow
make sense. And then God will show me that “bigger”picture—the
grand scheme of God that sweeps across all
time and space in which even the tiniest
details of our lives are shown to be part
of God’s grand overarching purpose
and plan—and everything will make sense,
and I will be satisfied. This image used
to bring me great comfort and often helped
me to move forward in light of terrible suffering.
But recently a new image has come to me that
somehow helps, though I am not yet sure how
or why.
The scene opens in the same way: I march
up to God in heaven and present to God my
list of terrible sufferings demanding an
explanation. And God, instead of revealing
to me that “bigger”picture in
which all suffering and death will somehow
make sense, instead opens wide his heart
and like a moth drawn to light, into God’s
heart I plunge experiencing as I fall the
fathomless and incomprehensible pain and
suffering that God also experiences whenever
a single one of God’s children suffers,
feels pain, and dies. I see and feel every
tear that God shed for you and me. And in
those very tears of God shed for me and for
all of God’s wonderful creation, all
my pain, all my suffering, all my tears,
and especially all my questions are washed
away. I understand: the answer to all our
whys are the very tears of God. It is God’s
mysterious and vast mercy and not God’s
purposeful and rational plan that in the
end brings home the quiet assurance that
God is indeed with us whenever and wherever
we hurt.
Rev. Dr. Mark LaRocca-Pitts, BCC, is a
United Methodist pastor working full-time as
a chaplain at Athens (GA) Regional Medical
Center and part-time as pastor of the Crawford
Circuit in rural Northeast Georgia. Mark is
also adjunct facility at the University of
Georgia in their Religion Department. Mark
completed his seminary degree at Harvard Divinity
School and his doctoral work at Harvard University
in their Near Eastern Languages and Civilizations
Department. He is a member of APC’s Commission
on Quality and the History Committee.
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EthicsWalk |
BioethicsWalk addresses
bioethical issues that chaplains face in
their day-to-day work. PlainViews invites
our readers to share their responses to each BioethicsWalk column,
which will be published in the following
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Please put the phrase “BioethicsWalk”
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We look forward to hearing
from you.
Can
anyone hear your prophetic voice?: the
ethics of speaking up
You can learn a lot about what’s going
on in health care in a state by talking with
chaplains at their state meetings. In states
with ageing populations, we talk about chaplaincy
in long-term care, nursing homes, assisted
living. In states with younger populations,
we talk about chaplaincy in ob-gyn and pediatrics.
In states with changing demographics, we
talk about the challenges of providing chaplaincy
services to newer community residents, who
may bring different religious, cultural,
and economic factors into the mix, and of
balancing their needs with the needs of longtime
residents.
During one such discussion, a chaplain,
sitting in the back of the room, mentioned
the “prophetic voice”he and his
colleagues brought to their work. I was curious:
How was this chaplain using his prophetic
voice as a health care professional? I needed
examples. “Well . . . . I’m on
the ethics committee.”With that, everyone
in the room turned around in their seats. “We’re all on
the ethics committee –that’s
just filling a seat at a table!”They
had a point.
The “prophetic voice,”in seminary
shorthand, is that voice that calls attention
to social injustice and holds society accountable
for its care or neglect of its most vulnerable
members: the widow, the orphan, the stranger
at the gate. Acute-care hospitals are perhaps
the one institution in American society recognizably
organized in these terms: in principle at
least, the stranger at the gate (or in the
ambulance) will be taken in and cared for.
We know that this is not always how it works.
We know about the 46 million uninsured. We
know that our health care system is not organized
in ways Isaiah would approve of. And we know
what we are called to do when we call ourselves
health care professionals: to align ourselves
with the best interests of those who suffer,
and to work to improve the quality of their
health care.
Simply being a health care professional,
or a member of a particular profession, is
not a guarantee that we will do this every
day. It is easy to substitute “I’m
on the ethics committee”for “In
practice, I speak up for patients’best
interests, and whenever I learn that care
is organized in ways that do not serve patients’interests.”And
there are chaplains who will say, isn’t
justice-seeking the patient rep’s job?
Isn’t my job to “be with”the
patient and family, to help relieve their
suffering through my presence and my skills?
Shirley Otis-Green is social worker and
palliative care specialist at City of Hope
National Medical Center near Los Angeles.
Her mission is to encourage the “being
with”professions in health care –chaplains,
social workers, psychologists –to find
their prophetic voices, to speak up for patients.
Otis-Green runs a training project called
Advancing Clinical Excellence (ACE), which
is funded by the National Cancer Institute.
According to the project’s website,
participants will be trained “to become
more effective role models and advocates
for enhanced palliative, end-of-life and
bereavement care within their institutions
and disciplines.”These advocates are
not meant to be lone voices crying in the
managed-care wilderness. ACE is committed
to transprofessional education, to teaching
participants how to work as interdisciplinary
palliative care teams and to collaborate
as advocates for better care.
In this vision of advocacy, “being
with”entails the ethical obligation, “being
for.”Speaking up is part of the job,
and will be until all patients have access
to high quality palliative care when they
need it. The ACE Project’s vision challenges
chaplains working in all areas of health
care to think about the ethics of speaking
up –and of keeping silent.
For more information about the ACE Project,
visit: www.cityofhope.org/ACEproject
Nancy Berlinger is Deputy Director and
Research Associate at The Hastings Center.
Her research interests focus on clinical ethics
and include end of life care; ethics in health
care chaplaincy; conscientious objection and
moral distress in health care; and patient
safety and the resolution of medical harm.
Her broader interests include bioethics issues
in cancer care, narrative ethics, and medical
humanities. As Deputy Director, she
manages the Center’s organizational capacity-building
initiative, Bioethics and the Public Interest,
which has received major support from the Ford
Foundation. Berlinger is the author
of After Harm: Medical Error and the Ethics
of Forgiveness (Johns Hopkins, 2005), which
will be released in paperback in fall 2007.
She serves on the ethics research group of
the Joint Commission, the ethics faculty of
the American Society of Healthcare Risk Managers
(ASHRM), the bioethics committees at Montefiore
Medical Center, Bronx, New York and at Richmond
of New York, and the editorial board of Medical
Ethics Advisor. She is a frequent presenter
at grand rounds and other ethics education
programs for health care professionals. She
volunteers on the Chaplaincy Service at Memorial
Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center in New York City.
She is a graduate of Smith College and
holds the Ph.D. in English Literature from
the University of Glasgow and the M.Div.
in Christian Ethics from Union Theological
Seminary.
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LongView |
Jane E. Babin, J.D., on being changed by
disease
Living
and Dying With Hope
I am the face of disease. I
am the voice of disease. I am one of millions
of faces and voices that need to be heard,
that wants to be known. I am one of many,
and yet, like others, I am unique. My story
is different from theirs and yet the same.
Listen to my story and see the faces, hear
the voices of the many, and remember……….
My journey began in August of 2003. It had
been a wonderful summer. I was off on summer
break from my job as a university professor.
I was enjoying time with my then 6-year-old
son at our neighborhood beach on a lake in
central New Hampshire. Oftentimes, my friend
Dan and I would go down to the beach and
sit on a large rock that protrudes out into
the lake. Dan was blessed with a fantastic
rhythm and blues voice and writes his own
songs, to which I would add harmony. We would
perform his new material to kayakers and
canoeists who would stop and listen, applaud
and give feedback. After 4 years of divorce,
although still unattached, I was finally
starting to have fun again, to enjoy life
once more. Then, a simple fall when dismounting
my bicycle –a very simple fall –changed
the course of my life. At first just one
fall, but then I experienced a second and
third one. Dan, would laugh and remark on
what a “klutz”I was becoming.
I would laugh, too, acknowledging my lack
of coordination.
It wasn’t until I was walking the
short distance home from the beach a few
weeks later that I realized something was
wrong. I had to keep stopping. My left foot
was not able to flex properly. It was now
September; I was on sabbatical leave from
the university and teaching an on-line graduate
course from home. I called my sister, a nurse
practitioner, who advised me to call my physician
immediately. My sister was soon to become
my greatest ally in my quest to get answers.
Although I did not know it at the time,
those simple falls, the difficult walk home
were to be the beginning of the end of my
life. Over the course of the next few months,
I went from one doctor to another, attempting
to find a name for what was happening to
me. In January of 2004, I was referred to
a well-know clinic outside of Boston, to
a neurologist who ordered a painful test
consisting of sticking long needles deep
into my muscles and sending an electrical
pulse to measure the ability of my nerves
to communicate with those muscles. Unfortunately,
they were not speaking to each other.
I remember two important things about that
visit to this clinic:
1. The neurologist recently had knee surgery,
was in discomfort, and left to go home
before my appointment was finished. He
left the testing to technicians and to
a physician who came in near the completion
of the tests. I remember lying on the examination
table, frightened, in pain, tears running
down my face. The substitute doctor compassionately
rubbed my arm, trying to comfort me. After
the tests, she very calmly told me that
she could not say definitively, but that
it might be amyotrophic lateral sclerosis,
ALS, Lou Gehrig’s disease. I drove
home to New Hampshire with my sister, in
shock, in silence.
2. The physician who went home with the
aching knee called me the next morning
to tell me, over the phone, that I, in
fact, had ALS, and he gave me 3-5 years
to live. I was alone to take this call.
I remember thinking then that no one should
ever have to hear the news that they are
dying over the telephone.
Needless to say, I did not return to that
clinic, but chose Massachusetts General Hospital’s
neurology department for a second opinion.
As luck, or fate, would have it, my niece,
after graduating from Dartmouth College and
before she left for Africa with the Peace
Corps, worked as a research assistant at
Mass General for a Dr. Cudkowicz, an ALS
researcher and clinician. When my niece learned
of my diagnosis, she spoke with Dr. Cudkowicz,
who agreed to see me.
I steeled myself emotionally for another
physician without personality, without feelings,
without compassion. I was wrong. Although
Dr. Cudkowicz confirmed the diagnosis of
ALS, she prefaced it by saying three simple
words, “I am sorry,”and I believe
she was. I believe she is sorry every time
she has to tell a patient that he or she
has a terminal illness. I could see the compassion
in her eyes; I could hear the concern in
her voice. And it was comforting. I was soon
to discover that this, unlike my other experience,
was the norm.
Before I became a victim of this dreadful
disease, I knew nothing about it. I was vaguely
familiar with the Lou Gehrig story, but I
knew no one with the disease. I did not know
that it slowly paralyzes its victims. I did
not know that it is a rare disease or that
it strikes men more frequently than women.
I did not know that it is a motor neuron
disease, that it is fatal. Once diagnosed
my ignorance put me on an accelerated learning
curve, a roller coaster ride from which there
was no escape. I would learn about ALS because
I had no choice –it was about to redefine
me, the person I was; the person I was about
to become.
All traumatic events change people. I was
now different. I had changed. I was now a
person who could not look forward to a future.
I was now a single mom who would not live
to see her son graduate from college, advance
in his career or get married. I was now a
mother who would never hold her grandchildren,
tuck them in or read them a bedtime story.
I would never dance again, or run, or swim.
I have forgotten now how it feels to walk
normally. I have forgotten what it is like
to be able to snap my fingers. I am changed,
but not all for the worse.
I have often heard from, and read about,
people suffering from serious illness who
have made statements such as, “God
blessed me with cancer,”or, “I
am a better person, a happier more fulfilled
person because of this disease.”It
was shocking to me how someone could feel “blessed”by
a disease, or conclude somehow that a disease
had made them a better, happier person. That
was before I became ill. I now understand.
I feel that I have not known true compassion,
have not experienced pure emotion prior to
having been stricken with ALS. To say that
I have met the most incredible people since
my diagnosis would be an understatement.
To say that I have witnessed the most profound
changes in my friends, my family would be
to underestimate them. Disease changes us
all.
British physicist Stephen Hawking once said
that he was “happier now”than
before he became ill. Diagnosed with ALS
in the mid-1960s, Hawking once told an interviewer, “Before,
I was very bored with life. I drank a fair
bit, I guess; I didn't do any work.... When
one's expectations are reduced to zero, one
really appreciates everything that one does
have." A long-time victim of ALS, he
miraculously lives, but he is changed. He
is unable to move most of his body, yet he
is happier. He expects nothing, yet appreciates
everything.
We are changed by disease, we are all changed,
not just the victims but those around them
as well. People with terminal illness often
fear abandonment. Will my friends and family
still be there for me as the disease takes
its course, as I become more debilitated?
I can tell you from my experience that yes,
family and friends have changed. My oldest
sister and I have grown closer because of
my illness. She often comes over to do laundry
or to buy groceries for me. My brother in
California, whom I have seen maybe ten times
since I was sixteen years old, came back
east with his family this summer to spend
a week on the lake with my son and me. I
travel to Santa Barbara next month to spend
one last time with him, to say goodbye.
My relationships with my friends have grown deeper and truer. My friends have
witnessed the physical changes in me. Yet, they know I’m still the same
quirky person with the weird sense of humor. They don’t leave me behind
or take no for an answer. I remember one evening standing outside of a local
jazz spot in our town, not wanting to go in for fear I could not negotiate
my way around the crowd in the restaurant. With this disease, I have no sense
of balance and can fall easily. My friend, Jaylene came outside, took my arm
and said, “You’re coming with me,”then proceeded to help
me through the crowd to our table. My dear friend, Phil, will often pick me
up, bring me to his house for dinner, and then drive me home. And we live on
the same block! My friends allow me to express my fears and also my humor regarding
this disease. And ALS can provide some very humorous moments! My friends are
real in spite of this disease. They accept me with all my challenges. And,
they will be there for me as this disease progresses. My friends are all into
the arts –Bob plays pipe organ, his wife, Jaylene is a beautiful soprano.
Steve is a poet and is in theatre, his friend Ginny plays flute and sings.
Phil plays piano, keyboard and oboe. I often joke with them that my funeral
will be more like a Broadway revue than a funeral. And I’ve no doubt
that it will be.
My relationship with my healthcare providers
has also evolved. Besides Dr. Cukowicz at
Mass General, I also have a primary care
provider, a local neurologist, a counselor,
a spiritual director and others who monitor
me on a regular basis. I never knew there
were so many people involved in the process
of a person dying! I am fortunate. They have
all acted with kindness and compassion over
and above my expectations.
My counselor has been my biggest supporter
in my times of crisis and despair. He has
helped me to realize that the stages of dying –denial,
sorrow, anger, and acceptance are not mutually
exclusive. I don’t go through these
stages; they go through me, time and time
again. He has unfailingly been there for
me. He has suffered with me through the moments
of anger, cried with me through the moments
of pain and despair, and laughed with me
through moments of absurdity. He has taught
me, through example, that I am not alone
with this disease. There are those who care.
They have all given me reason to hope, not
for a cure, but for an opportunity to contribute,
for quality of life. And hope is central
to my ability to deal with dying. To quote
Martin Luther King, Jr.:
If you lose hope, somehow you lose the
vitality that keeps life moving, you lose
that courage to be, that quality that helps
you go on in spite of it all.
And so today I still have a dream.
As my night grows darker, my hope grows
brighter –I still have dreams, I still
have hopes. I hope for the opportunity to
love and feel love from those closest to
me; I hope for moments of brilliance and
creativity, to be able to meaningfully contribute
to this world; I hope that I will have quiet
moments with my son, to help him through
the changes that mommy will experience and
to help him realize that I am still the same
mommy inside, even though the outside is
changing. And, finally, I have hope that
when my mission here on Earth is completed,
that I make a peaceful transition to a place
of comfort and love.
Yes, I am the face, the voice of disease.
I am an advocate for those without voice.
I cannot explain why I got ill, why I am
dying, for it defies explanation. But I can
find purpose in what remains of my life.
I can make contributions that I hope will
bring fulfillment and joy to me and to others.
And, I can make sense of how I leave this
earth, how I relate to others and how they
relate to me in this important process of
dying.
Lastly, I can remind the medical community
that those with disease have faces, voices,
families, hopes, joys, fears and a need to
be treated with compassion and respect. I
am not just a body with disease. I am a spirit
about to fly.
This article is taken from a lecture given
at Williams College in January of 2005.
Jane E. Babin, J.D., was a law professor
at Plymouth State University in Plymouth, NH,
until she had to retire because of her ALS.
Part of her creative response to this vicious
disease was to write, and to share, which has
given her meaning and a reason to see this
process through. Jane lives in Laconia, NH.
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Isaac was 14, the only child of older parents.
At 12, he was diagnosed with an aggressive
form of cancer that was wrapped around his
spine at the base of his brain. After a year
of chemotherapy and radiation treatments,
which left Isaac weak and sick, the cancer
was not diminished in any way.
At 13, surgery was performed to remove as
much of the tumor as possible, which now
was wrapped so tightly around his spine that
it was affecting his limbs and causing great
pain. The surgeons were unable to remove
all of the tumor.
Within a few months, the tumor grew so much
that Isaac lost the use of his left arm and
could no longer walk unassisted. Oncologists
at his hospital told Isaac’s parents
that, medically, there was nothing more to
do; they said Isaac had, at best, a few months
to live. The parents refused to share this
information with Isaac. A palliative care
team was brought in to assist the family.
Isaac asked the palliative care physician
if he could see the most recent CT scans
of his tumor. His mother adamantly insisted
he shouldn’t see them. Nonetheless,
the palliative care physician arranged for
him to see the scans and the palliative care
team arranged for his beloved friend and
neighbor and her also beloved dog to be with
Isaac as he viewed the scans.
With the dog on his lap, the neighbor at
his side, and his parents and the palliative
care team present, in a private conference
room at his hospital, Isaac listened intently
as the palliative care physician carefully
showed and explained the CT scans to Isaac.
Isaac asked if more chemotherapy or radiation
would help. The doctor explained that these
treatments had been unable to stop the tumor’s
growth. Isaac asked if more surgery could
be done to remove it. The physician explained
that the tumor was too deeply connected to
the spine to be removed. For a few minutes,
Isaac sat quietly with an inward gaze. Then
he asked, “So what do we do now?”
The physician answered that now Isaac should
spend time deciding what he most wanted to
do in his life and find ways to do them.
Within the next few days, Isaac decided he
wanted to go home, to spend time with his
neighbor and her dog, to eat a favorite meal,
to finish a poem he’d been writing
before this hospitalization, and to tell
a girl in his class that he loved her. He
wondered if she would kiss him just once.
He wondered what beer tasted like and asked
his Dad if he could try one when he got home.
Within two days of going home, Isaac was
convinced by his parents to go to another
children’s hospital where they begged
for treatment for him. He was enrolled in
a toxicity study, a drug trial designed to
test dosage limits for an experimental treatment.
He died in hospital two weeks later.
What would the chaplain's role be with Isaac?
With his family? With the hospital staff
at the first hospital? What about the staff
at the second hospital?
What ethical issues are present here?
What can be learned about the needs of
children in hospitals from Isaac’s
story?
Responses
I recognize the difficulties of privacy
here, the responsibility of a parent for
a minor, and yet the emotional maturity of
this 13 year old. While I don't think the
parents could ever have fully acceded to
Isaac's wishes, a family meeting with the
chaplain present as moderator might have
been helpful. Were Isaac's wishes truly heard
by his family? Did he go to the final treatment
to please them? Where was the chaplain in
this story?
Judy Novak, M.Div., NACC Cert
Cudahy, WI
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Sarah
Masters reviews the film
The
Mormons
Just two months ago, PBS programs "Frontline" and "American
Experience”joined forces for the first
time to present a two-part documentary entitled The
Mormons.
The compelling film aired on consecutive
nights, the first evening devoted to the
history of the church that now counts close
to 12 million adherents. The second evening
focused on the controversies that have always
surrounded the Mormon Church.
The film delves deeply into the tumultuous
history of Mormonism, from the persecution
of a few believers in the 1800's to the growth
of a wealthy mainstream church that includes
as members politicians such as Mitt Romney,
and prominent business leaders and academicians.
The Mormons takes a balanced and
well researched approach to Mormon beliefs
and the viewer hears in detail from both
church elders and skeptics who question the
motives of Joseph Smith, the religion’s
founder, and the authenticity of the “Book
of Mormon.”
Emmy and Peabody award-winning producer
and director Helen Whitney spent three years
bringing to life the four-hour documentary.
In an article in The Deseret Morning
News, Whitney described her current
work. “It is not exhaustive. It is
not comprehensive. It is thematic. I have
chosen what I felt to be the defining ideas
and themes and events in Mormon history that
would help outsiders go inside the church.
It's not altogether chronological, but roughly
so. I hope that most of the stereotypes,
ideally, all of them, will be blown away.
Because so many of them are just based on
ignorance. Ignorance about Mormon history,
ignorance about Mormon theology. Ignorance."
Whitney notes that there are more Mormons
outside of the U.S. than in this country
and hopes that viewing this religion through
so many different angles will encourage viewers
from throughout the world to contrast and
compare belief systems and to re-examine
their own.
Completed: 2007
Running Time: 240 Minutes
Director/Producer: Helen Whitney
If you are interested in purchasing this
film, you can do so at www.hartleyfoundation.org. Just
click on “Masterworks”on the
homepage for more information. The cost of
the film series is $24.99 for a DVD.
Sarah Masters is the Managing
Director of the Hartley Film Foundation,
a non-profit foundation dedicated to cultivation,
support, production and distribution of
the best documentaries and audio meditations
on world religions, spirituality, ethics
and well-being.
Book
Review
Chaplain
Timothy E. Madison, Ph.D., reviews
Let
Them Go Free: A Guide to Withdrawing
Life Support,
With a Family Prayer Service
In this brief work, Professor Shannon and
Father Faso set out to provide some practical
guidance and spiritual insight to families
facing life support termination decisions.
Their words are calm and encouraging. The
reader easily can visualize their supportive
presence at the hospital bedside, patiently
offering these words of wisdom amid the helplessness
and upheaval which attend a family’s
experience of anticipatory grief. The chapters
are organized as answers to questions commonly
posed by such families. The responses read
like those of an experienced, faithful friend
who speaks quietly of hope that transcends
all that the monitors, machines, and medicines
represent.
As a work intended for distribution to families
of patients, however, the Hospital Chaplain
will have to be selective. There is nothing
in the title that identifies it as a Roman
Catholic document, but that is what it is.
Persistent Christological references will
hinder its usage among other faith groups.
The “Family Prayer Service”relies
on a series of recitations and responsive
readings which will be awkward for even other
Christian groups from non-liturgical traditions.
As ethical guidance, the authors make several
good practical suggestions to families. Curiously,
however, no reference is made to seeking
out a hospital ethics consultant or committee
for assistance. Also, the family’s
comfort level with a course of action is
too often presented as ethical justification
of that action. My experience in the clinical
setting has revealed that frequently these
situations compel families to choose courage
rather than pursue the course that feels
comfortable.
Shannon, Thomas A., and Charles N. Faso,
O.F.M. Let Them Go Free: A Guide to Withdrawing
Life Support, With a Family Prayer Service,
Georgetown University Press: Washington,
DC (2007) pp 61.
Chaplain Timothy E. Madison, BCC, Ph.D.,
is at Memorial Hospital of Carbondale, Illinois.
He is endorsed by the Cooperative Baptist Fellowship.
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